Being someone's everything and making someone your everything is a choice. Being treated as a second choice, feeling unappreciated and umimportant is unpleasant at best and I feel no one should be or deserves to be treated this way.
Compromising between the ideal and the possible is what we have at times all faced but really why should we, as no one deserves to be treated as an afterthought.....I often say that I wear my heart on my sleeve. Those that I am close to and hold dear to me know that I care for them so much. So when I am hurt by their actions or words it is exceptionally hard for me to tell them that they have hurt me by their actions or more importantly they have hurt me by their words. You will preserve the feelings of others while you make sure that you do not hurt their feelings sometimes at a cost to you.
To allow someone that you care about make you think that you're not worthy, not smart enough, not strong enough or good enough is not okay. Being made to feel weak, unimportant or full of flaws is not the way that you should ever have to feel, yet we do.....Why? Mainly because you love selflessly, with your whole heart and unconditionally. You make compromises and self sacrifice your wants and needs for the people you love and care about. You put their needs, feelings, desires and problems before your own. You go the extra mile and ask for nothing in return...
However, what you need to understand is that not eveyone deserves your attention, care and love. Nor do they deserve your kindness, compassion and unwavering committment to them. Not everyone deserves a place in your heart.
Somebody once wrote "There is only one sin, and that is to persuade oneself that second best is anything but second best"
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